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  • 4 Biggest YOU Blocks that are sabotaging your success

    Let’s get real… you are in your own way! Your mindset, beliefs, past experiences, fear, expectations, and assumptions are just a few things that block you from having, achieving, and accomplishing things in your life.

    We spend weeks, years, and in most cases decades allowing these limitations to hinder our lives and sabotage our dreams. 😢 I, for one have been there, done that! But no more! 💪 See the difference between me and most people in this world (and I suspect you too aren’t like most people) I’m willing to do something to change!

    💡 Knowing our insecurities and limitations isn’t doing anything about it. Taking action, learning the how’s and why’s, and stretching outside our comfort zone is what will allow you to not settle.

    The truth is, you deserve a great life, correction, you deserve an epic life! And you can have one if YOU get out of your own way! Stop allowing your excuses of not enough time, money, energy, or support to block you from achieving! YOU CAN HAVE MORE!

    Believe me when I say… IT IS POSSIBLE! 🙌 Check out this week’s episode and learn about 4 big YOU blocks that are sabotaging your success and if you are inspired to DO SOMETHING more with your life, then check out my OVER IT ACADEMY by clicking HERE and schedule 20-minutes free with me and let’s talk about how this 1-year long program is exactly what you need. (Click HERE to schedule)

    💣 Truth Bomb! You already know if you want to work with me or not. So be honest with yourself and challenge whatever excuses and limiting thoughts that are stopping you. Instead of thinking of all the ways you can’t do it, try shifting your attention to discovering 5-ways you can. This moves you from fear into inspired action!

    There is only 2-weeks left of open enrollment. Schedule an appointment today and let’s talk because life’s too short to live miserably.

    Until next week, keep being awesome!

    XOXO- BK

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  • Transforming Your Story From Victim To Victory!

    Good morning friend!

    I think the universe has a funny way of ironically teaching valuable lessons. As I opened my computer from my father’s hospital room in Raleigh North Carolina to start working on my Mind Right Monday Volg, go figure today is the day I am talking about victim to victory.

    Earlier last week my father almost died. I know, scary right! My father for those of you who haven’t read my book is my hero and is the person you all can thank for the women you know today.

    He is healthy, vibrant, and active ‘young-old’ man who has no prior health conditions, but during a routine outpatient procedure everything went wrong. The doctors were in shock that a stent which was placed in his leg travelled to his heart and started ripping through his heart wall, calling for a major life-threatening open heart surgery. There has only ever been 2 reported cases of this in history!

    The doctors were in shock. After the initial chaos of the travelling 1st stent, they took some pictures to find the other one was also on the move! This called for another risky operation and a second 1 and ½ foot scar!

    There are so many reasons why my father should be dead right now, but God had other plans. The doctors here are calling him ‘the miracle man’ since he has defied all odds. (Not surprising if you know my father lol).

    I share this with you to prove a point. I want you to check in right now… Yes, right now and tell me how you feel.

    Pause right now and check into your feelings.

    Are you feeling sorry for me or my father?

    Are you feeling sorry for yourself as this reminds you of something in your life?

    Are you feeling grateful?

    Are you feeling empathetic or sympathetic?

    Honestly, how do you feel?

    The reason I ask you this is for you to see if you have slipped down into victim (which is pretty easy to do when things are difficult). But knowing where your energy is going is key to keeping you out of victim and helping you step into a more empowered life.

    All week long I have had the opportunity to be victimised.  With almost losing the man I adore, admire and respect, it would be understandable to feel sorry for myself, to get lost in grief and feel comforted by everyone who expresses their sympathy. But by doing so my energy would slip into victim and tank my emotional state and honestly, what good would that do?

    Now let me be clear, it is 100% understandable and natural to feel emotionally drained, sad, grief, remorse and even depression after situations like these, especially if it hadn’t turned out in good favour. Feeling this is natural and normal, staying there is not and that is what I am talking about.

    All week long, instead of dipping into the victim LOW and sharing the tragedy of the experience when asked, “how’s your dad doing”, I choose instead to squash that gossip and share how well he’s doing and the miracle that has been received. Keeping my energy focused here has allowed me to keep my spirits high along with the spirits of those around me. I choose the victory vs. the victim.

    In this week’s episode, I share with you 3 additional tips to help you get out of your victim story and step into victory! Check it out and be sure to share it with someone you know that might be struggling!

    Oh, and if you really want to master the art of victory, then check out my Over It Academy by clicking HERE. Enrollment is now open and class starts April 3rd. Check it out and when you are ready, let’s schedule some time to talk. You can snag 20-Min for free on my calendar by clicking here. Appointments fill up fast, so be sure to snag yours today.

    Good Luck this week my friend and until next time, keep being awesome!

    XOXO -BK

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  • Learn to Unleash Your Awesome!

    Morning Friend!

    You know what I think is bullshit. All the reason why you, myself, and others think we are less than, not enough, stupid or we suck.

    I hear it all the time. The lies we tell ourselves to keep us safe and protect ourselves are the same lies that keep us small, stuck, and feeling like crap! But we all do it (self-included)!

    More often than not, these lies manifest in the form of excuses, limiting beliefs, self-deprecating talk, or fear. Without mindfulness these lies will prevent you from ever achieving your heart’s desire, they keep you from reaching your awesome.

    Your awesome is your best self unleashed. In this state of being you become an unstoppable force of good in all aspects of your life. Anything is achievable when it’s believable. But without extensive self-reflection, you are your biggest saboteur of this epicness.

    Your assumptions, past experiences, subconscious, inner-critic, belief system, thoughts, feelings and preconditioning all participate in these lies that keep you imprisoned in your mind.  

    Truly unraveling this will take more than just this week’s video, but it is a great place to start. Check it out and be sure to share it with someone you know who can use the pep-talk.

    If you are like me and the thousands of others who are Over It and ready to get out of your way and end the cycle of self-sabotage, then call me and lets chat. You might be ready to join the emotional revolution we started to transform your life and take back your dreams!

    Check it out HERE or book a 20-min Free Strategy call with me HERE.

    Until next week, make it a great one!

    XOXO – BK

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  • Why Can’t I Get Over It and What To Do

    Haha!! You are going to love the Trooper photo-bomb in this week’s video! Over the years my videos have been invaded by my cat Olive, little dog Bella, but today, Trooper (my big dog) makes his grand unveiling! Oh, the struggles of a real life entrepreneur. LOL

    In all seriousness, this week I am talking about why you can’t just get over it. We all have experienced something painful in our life that seems to plague us for years. Maybe it was the betrayal of a friend, abandonment, neglect, abuse, a bad divorce, a nasty break-up or humiliating experience. Whatever it is, if this experience still haunts you, then this video is for you!

    I remember, not too many years ago, how difficult it was to get over this guy who broke up with me. I played it off like it was no big thing, but my heart was obsessed over it. I was devastated. I felt like he was ‘the one that got away’ and it haunted me.

    I found myself comparing everyone to him, withholding my love from new relationships, and unwilling to be vulnerable again. My mind came up with thousands of altering timelines filled with “should’a – could’a – would’a” scenarios. From the outside, it looked like I had moved on, but on the inside, I had anything but.

    So why couldn’t I get over it?! Why was I trapped in a mental prison over this guy, who in retrospect wasn’t my ideal match?! Well, it boiled down to a few reasons. #1 because he had ‘abandoned me’ and #2 because my brain hadn’t concluded our story yet.

    Let me explain: As you know from my story, abandonment was something I had experienced a lot of as a child and was something I was very sensitive too. Up until this point, unbeknownst to me, I had never let anyone close enough to me to abandon me. I was always the one who left relationships before I became to invested… except for this time. He left me before I had a chance to come up with reasons to push him away and thus he triggered my old abandonment wounds.

    This sparked all kinds of unprocessed emotional garbage; loop them all together, and it kept me stuck in an emotional prison. Sound familiar? Yeah, yuck! Old shit, causing new shit. But that’s how it works.

    So what did I do to “get over it?” Well, lots of things that all accumulated to lots of self-work. Yep, I had to do a tremendous amount of work on my old-shit so that it stopped causing new shit. “I’ve already worked on my shit” you say. I get this! And trust me I do, but I’m going to be the bearer of “bad” news; if you haven’t gotten over it, there is still more work to do.

    In reality, we ALL still have work to do, no matter what stage you are at in your life. And the more you do, the better you get at it and eventually self-work is something you grow to LOVE and deeply appreciate. Want to learn how to make this your truth? CLICK HERE, reply to this email or schedule 20-Min FREE with ME by going HERE and let’s talk about making this a reality for you!

    Wishing You All The Best,

    With an open heart,

    BK

    PS: Enrollment for the Over It Academy Ends April 6th! Do NOT miss your chance to join this life altering, MindFu mastering, self-love acquiring bad-ass personal dev course! We only have 21 more spots available before we close the doors. Call me. You deserve happiness and it’s here for you when you’re ready.

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  • Breakthrough YOU with these 3 tips!

    Good Morning Friend!

    Man, what a wild and crazy week it has been here in Northern CA. The weather has been nonstop rain, storm, flood warnings, damn issues, levee scares and more! If you are from the Nor-Cal area, I hope you are being safe out there! During all this weather crisis, I am reminded of how grateful I am. Seems opposite, as most people are on the edge of their seats in fear, and in certain moments I share this with them, but in the grand scheme of things, I am grateful.

    I am grateful that the levees are holding, that the damn didn’t break, that I have a roof over my head, food in my belly and plenty of room to be a safe haven for my friends and family who are in higher threat levels than I am. See, tons to be grateful for!

    I share this shift in thinking and my commitment to keeping my emotional energy high as a perfect example of the #1 tip I share in this week’s video. It can be oh so easy to keep our energy focused on what’s wrong, what’s missing, and trapped in fear. But what good is that doing? It isn’t helping me feel better, nor is it ‘fixing’ or ‘changing’ the crisis that is at hand, but by shifting, it is allowing me to have more peace of mind and clarity to make the best choices I possibly can.

    Currently, I have friends who are weighing out the storm in areas that might flood, others who heeded the warnings and headed for the hills, some that are non-stop worried and upset, and others that are just grateful that their families are safe. Out of all of them, who do you think is having the most peace during this time? You guessed it! The ones who choose to focus on what truly matters, in spite of the risk of losing everything.

    I send this as a reminder that whether you are dealing with the Nor-Cal water crisis, So-Cal flooding, massive snow storms, loss, separation, acting out kid, addiction, or any other life altering drama, that it is your choice to keep your energy trapped in the drama, or allow peace to invade your heart. I encourage you this week to discover a bit more peace in one form or another. To find the ‘silver lining’ in the hardship you face and allow grace to enter your world. By doing so won’t fix the issue, nor will it solve the problem, but it might allow you the space to see a new opportunity, all while bringing you a bit of relief during this difficult time.

    Check out this week’s video to discover more Breakthrough YOU tips and techniques, and if you are ready to truly breakthrough YOU and start living YOUR best life, then call us and let’s see if my OVER IT Academy is right for you.

    Until Next Week, Keep Being Awesome,

    Bonnie Kelly.

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  • Choose You As The Perfect Valentine

    Good Morning Friend! 

    Is valentine’s day one of those holidays that you love, or is it one of those made up holidays you despise? Either way, this video is the perfect gift for you!

    This week I want to share with you some fun ideas on how to choose YOU as the perfect valentine! I am sure I am not alone in saying that this ‘holiday’ over the years has had many up’s and downs. Some years we are forgotten, some years we are alone, others didn’t meet our expectations, and some, our hearts are filled with joy and appreciation.

    Either way, I wanted to spend some time today to encourage you to not forget the #1 most important person in your life that could use some valentine love… YOU!

    Far too often we wait for others to shower us with affection on this special day, and we often forget how capable we are to doing the same for ourselves! Now, I am not saying that you need to go out to dinner by yourself and order yourself flowers (unless those things make you happy). Rather, use this day as an opportunity to have a little bit more LOVE for yourself, compassion for yourself, and be a little kinder to yourself.


    In this week’s episode, I will read to you (a very long quote) by Don Miguel Ruiz and share some tips to helping you make YOU the perfect Valentine this year! Enjoy!!

    And don’t forget, if you are 100% committed to getting out of your way, and you are 100% committed to getting OVER IT! Then check out my OVER IT Academy that starts April 3rd 2017. I only have 20-spots left before we are sold out and you are not going to want to miss this. Want to learn more? Book 20-min free with me and let’s talk about it. Click HERE to check out my availability.

    Until next week, keep being awesome!

    Love- Ya, Bonnie Kelly

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  • It’s Not Your Fault, But It Is Your Responsibility

    Good Morning Troops! What a beautiful day to live life your way! This morning I am sharing with you one of my absolutely favorite topics, which is personal responsibility. Yep, taking ownership of the direction and impact your life has.

    Now, I won’t spoil all the fun, as this week’s episode has some seriously good intel, but what I do want to emphasize is the importance of this topic. Even if you do think you take ownership, I BET there are still some subconscious areas that need some fine tuning.

    Let’s flashback for a moment. The year 2003 and I just moved here to California after many years on the run. My life was a mess, correction, I was a mess. Filled with self-hatred, anger, and self-loathing, for all the hurt, abuse, neglect and pain I had endured, I was desperate for change.

    What I didn’t realize was what it was going to take to truly transform my life. Up until this point, I was a victim of my life, and stuck deep within the shadows of blame. And understandably so, I was literally a victim to abuse sexual violence and crime, but what I wasn’t aware of was how these experiences shaped my identity. They shaped my viewpoint and outlook on life, and if I must say so myself, this viewpoint sucked! To me, at this time, life was filled with bad people, who only do bad things, and I must stay guarded, on edge, protected and never let anyone in! Man did this have unintentional repercussions.

    What I needed, and ultimately ended up having to adopt, was a new outlook. I needed to let go of my old victim story, step out of the shadows of blame and enter into the light of personal responsibility. It wasn’t my fault why I lacked the tools, support, and insights up until this point. It wasn’t my fault why I felt worthless, hopeless and developed a habit of self-protection. These were the unfortunate repercussions of dysfunction. But if I wanted a new life, if I wanted joy, connection, love, happiness, and success, then I needed to take responsibility of where my life was going.

    When I was stuck in my history, my story, it paralyzed me from taking responsibility. I was too distracted by my hurt, blame and whois me and this clouded my perspective and kept me blind to having a choice. This doesn’t have to be your future, just as it is no longer mine. You too can have all that you dream, all that you desire, if you are willing to look at all the ways you are being blindsided by your histories.

    Join me and let’s make this change reality. Join me and end the cycle of self-sabotage. Join me and finally GET OVER IT!

    Check out this week’s episode and learn more about why it’s not your fault and join me LIVE this weekend in Sacramento at the Doubletree Hotel Saturday, Feb. 11th & 12th to Unleash Your Awesome!

    Until Next Week, Keep Being Awesome!

    With Love – Bonnie Kelly

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  • STOP!! And Start Detoxing Your Mind!

    “Cinderelly, Cinderelly Night and day, it’s Cinderelly! Make the fire, fix-a breakfast, wash the dishes, do the mopping… And the sweeping and the dusting! They always keep her hopping! She goes around in circles, till she’s very, very dizzy still, they holler! Keep a-busy Cinderelly!”

    Does this sound less like a fairy tale and more like your reality?! I totally get it! With so many responsibilities, duties, tasks, and people who depend on us, we are kept so busy that it’s no wonder why we don’t make time for ourselves!

    This week I felt it was important to tell you to STOP! And start detoxing your mind. As your friend, I feel it is essential for me to encourage, no, I insist that you take some YOU TIME for your personal dev work. Life is always going to be busy, and there will always be another client demanding your time, a boss asking you to work late, a PTA meeting, fundraiser, kid camp, or car issue. THIS IS LIFE!! And it’s NO EXCUSE!

    Neglecting your mental garden is only going to cause you more issues in the long run when you are broken down, overwhelmed, anxious, or burnt out. This is why it is essential and I insist that you begin thinking about taking a few minutes a day to take care of you.

    Having a healthy habit of personal development in your life doesn’t require hours, weeks or even days of your time. You can build a healthy habit with just a few minutes. Yep! That’s it! In this week’s episode, I share with you a simple shift that is sure to get you moving in the right direction! Check it out and let me know what you think.

    Oh, and if you are really ready to hit the RESET button then join me LIVE in Sacramento, CA February 11th & 12th for my Unleash Your Awesome event held at the Doubletree hotel. Early bird special ends THIS WEEK! And we only have 20 seats left! Don’t miss out on your opportunity to learn the tools and skills needed to be the best version of you possible. Click HERE to learn more & claim your seat before it’s too late!

    Until Next Week, Keep Being Awesome!

    Love, BK

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  • Albert Einstein’s Advice On How To STOP Comparing Yourself

    Let’s face it, we all get sucked into the comparison trap from time to time. When we do, it is easy to feel sorry for ourselves, less than, not enough, worthless, or even jealous. When you get sucked into this mindset, what do you do?

    Do you allow this state of mind to influence your mood, behavior, or actions? Do you go into debt trying to keep up with the Jones’s? Be honest with yourself! Pretending this doesn’t happen to you isn’t realistic, as I am sure that even the monks have thoughts about who looks better in their robes. LOL – I’m just being fun here, but I do believe that real change requires real honesty.

    Maybe you’re comparison thoughts aren’t causing much discomfort. Even a tiny thorn has the ability to make a big impact. Tune-In to yourself and see if there is any room for growth. I personally had to do this a few years ago when it came to one of my best friends.

    Her house always looks like a model home, and though my house is pretty epic, every time I came home from a visit I would find myself shopping online for new furniture! LOL! This wasn’t a HUGE deal but it was a thorn that needed to be addressed. What about you? What unknown thorns do you have lurking in the background?

    Personally, I think Albert Einstein said it best with one of my favorite quotes that I share in today’s video. (Sorry no spoilers here! LOL You will have to watch the video to find out!)  Check it out and be sure to leave a comment.

    Oh, and on a side note, if you are REALLY ready to explore your thorns in more detail, then you have to check out my 2-Day Live event in Sacramento CA Feb 11th &12th. We are already ½ sold out and early bird pricing ends soon!

    Learn to get out of your way & unleash your awesome! Learn more about this epic event by clicking HERE.

    Until next week,

    Keep being awesome!

    Bonnie Kelly

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  • Overcome Nervousness With These 3 Tips

    The countdown was on. Only a few more names before mine was called. I felt my palms beginning to sweat as they called Crissy. She was to go right before me, and now the pressure was on. I was next. I felt my head begin to spin and my heart felt like it was beating out of my chest. As I watched in horror, Crissy finished up and stepped down. “Next up we have Bonnie Kelly, here to talk about her new listing in North Yuba City.

    As I walked up to the podium, my paper in hand, I looked around the room of 40 of my peers who were now intensely looking at me. As I opened my mouth… silence. NOTHING CAME OUT! I began to nervously sweat and fiddle with the paper in front of me. As I opened my mouth the second time, words finally started to emerge and with a crackling, shaking tone I muttered, “Umm, It’s a 3 bedroom, 2 bath with lots of features, umm, it’s priced at $300,000 and umm, I will be there from 9-11 this umm, morning if ummm, you want to umm stop bye.” And with that, it was over.

    In reflection, this nervous panic attack seems quite ridiculous. My body shutting down, my blood boiling and heart pounding all to share 1 line in front of a room full of people that I KNEW! HAHA But, this was my first “public speaking” attempt I did early in my Real Estate career. I was young and honestly allowed my nerves get the best of me.

    If I had to guess, you have a similar story to this, and for the most part, you avoid public speaking like it’s the plague. I get this, but no way you should allow this nervousness to stop you from doing something awesome!

    Look at me, if you now flash forward more than a decade later, you will find me speaking to rooms of people over 300 that I have never met before, with ease. So what changed, you ask? Well, honestly, it was my unwillingness to allow my fear to dictate my life. My nervousness was just my mind’s way of being dramatic and was controlling my actions and reactions. And if you know me, there is no way I was going to allow this to stand.

    So, I committed to learning to embrace and transform my nervousness. Did you happen to notice that I didn’t say control? Control means that you are in command of the entire situation, well, that isn’t going to happen. Nervousness is normal, and so I learned to embrace it and transform those feelings into fuel that ultimately served me in many ways.

    This week, I share with you 3 tips to help you overcome that nervousness and step into a stronger and better you. Check it out and be sure to share with your friends!

    Until next week, Keep being awesome!

    Bonnie Kelly

    PS: Have you noticed our 2-day event is coming up! If you are 100% committed, ready and willing to make 2017 the year where you finally GET OVER IT, then you have to join us for this life changing event. Learn to enhance your emotional intelligence, embrace your emotional resilience, and unleash you’re awesome! Seats are limited, so snag yours TODAY!

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2 thoughts on “Vlog

  1. Lety Espinoza

    Bonnie, just wanted to let you know I look forward to your Monday videos and love to make time for them no matter what I’m doing! Keep educating us on these very important topics so we can live a fulfilled life.

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  2. RUTH S

    Cassie…thank you for sharing your grief. You were very brave to do so!!! Definitely shows your movement-forward through the process. Again, thank you!! :0) Both of y’all – have a blessed Thanksgiving!

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