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  • Transform Your Bad Habits

    I just couldn’t take it anymore😫. My hair was falling out, my heart seemed to be endlessly beating in my chest, my mind was running like a hamster on Redbull and no matter how much I worked I still felt behind.

    The stress was more than I could take.

    So… I broke.

    😱 Laying in bed, exhausted, overwhelmed and mentally Over It, I knew something had to change but it wasn’t the obvious changes.

    YES, I needed to listen to my coach and slow down. Yes, I need to take better self-care. Yes, I needed to start saying no. These were the obvious changes that need to happen, but they weren’t the big one.

    What I really needed was to change my mental habits🔍.

    The relentless thoughts 🤔 to do more, keep going, push harder, be stronger, win, win, win conditioning I was taught by the very society we all live in.

    As I lay in bed 🛌 for the 3rd day in the row, I had no choice but to own my part. To recognize the toxic mindset ruts I allowed to form my habits.

    It was the plaguing feeling of not being enough 😝 that was the true culprit lurking under the surface and keeping me on the edge of a continuous breakdown.

    The truth is, you can change your outer habits, take more action, do more and see change, but it will be short-lived unless you transform your insides to meet your outsides 🔑.

    So what did I do

    I changed my mental habits, that’s what. I began to separate my worth from my accomplishments, my weight from my attractiveness, my bank account with my success and started to LOVE MYSELF right here… right now💗.

    And you know what happened?

    My accomplishments expanded, my weight stabilized and my bank account grew, all while having inner peace, happiness and joy lead the way 🙌🙌.

    Sound like something you need to invest your time in?

    😂, I TOTALLY get it, and I can help. Starting in 📅 February open enrollment starts again for my 1-year program and I am looking for 38 people who are committed to doing the work to change their lives.

    Life doesn’t have to be so stressful, overwhelming or difficult. I’m not saying you won’t face difficulty, but you can learn the tools to see, feel, experience and respond in a way that allows even the darkest moments to be short-lived.

    Discover your Journey back to Joy 🏆. Invest in yourself, because… you’re worth it. Click HERE to learn more about The Over It Academy and let’s schedule some time to chat.

    In the meantime, check out this week’s MRM 🎥 (Mind Right Monday) to learn 3-Tips to Busting Bad Habits!

    Until Next Time, Keep Being Awesome,

    XOXO – BK

    Bonnie Kelly

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  • How to Stay Focused with your set goals

    Morning!

    Let me be honest, the title of this email is a bit misleading. It’s not that you shouldn’t set goals, rather you shouldn’t ONLY set goals 🏁.

    One of the BIGGEST mistakes people make in setting goals is they set them, pin them to their bathroom mirror, and after a few weeks allowing them to drift to the background.

    Look, you’re busy. We all are but that isn’t an excuse to stay stagnant in life. Just like water, you are meant to be growing, evolving, transforming, and expanding consciousness. Stagnant water can’t sustain life, nor can a stagnant life sustain fulfillment.

    This requires us to CONSTANTLY be doing things different which goes against our biological programming 🐹! Let’s face it, we are creatures of habit and as a result, we can get trapped in a complacent life👎.

    😝 YUCK! Good thing is, there is a better way.

    It’s not easy and requires some real MindFu mastery but with the right skills, tools and support ANYONE is capable of living a life that is filled with life, vitality and wonder!

    One of the best ways to help you break the barriers of bad habits is to switch from just setting goals to shifting your focus .

    YOUR ability to focus is what will hurl you over the complacent hurdle 🚧 you have been trapped behind and launch you into a new season of achievement!

    To help you accomplish this I have dedicated this week’s Mind Right Monday (MRM) to help you do just that! Check it out by clicking HERE.

    Oh and if you really need a kick in the paints, I am hosting a FREE class this week to help you Master your Motivation! 💻 It’s virtual & free so what do you have to lose?! Click HERE to snag your seat!

    Good Luck! Can’t wait to see you Thursday!!

    XOXO BK

    Bonnie Kelly

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  • 3 Types of Motivation Fuel

    I couldn’t believe it when I heard it…. but it’s true.

    80% of people don’t set new year’s resolutions or goals! SAY WHAT!!?!? 😱😱😱

    I get it. Year after year we are fired up to set them only to be disappointed within the first 30 days.

    But what’s the deal with this? And can it be changed?

    YEP!

    Statistically out of the 20% of people who set new year’s resolutions, 90% fail within the first 3-weeks. 👎 👎 👎  Not very motivating is it?

    But there are many factors that are working against you that you might not know about and with simple teaks can change your results! 🏁

    If you are ready to be in the 10% club of Resolution ⭐ Rock-Stars ⭐, then listen up!

    #1 You need to know your fuel .
    – Are your emotions fueling your decisions? If so you will experience flaming hot motivation that flares out quickly!
    – Is your past experience & conditioning fueling your decisions? If so, you will be motivated for longer periods of time, but it will be hard to change your habitual behaviors!
    – Or are you fueled by stainable longer-lasting resources?? (Check out this week MRM to know what this is!)

    #2 You need to commit your focus 🤔 .
    Many times we rely on our emotions (fear, joy, excitement) to be our motivation and forget that ALL EMOTIONAL experiences are temporary!! Instead of just setting a goal and being FIRED UP about them, we need to condition our minds to FOCUS! This means knowing how our pre-existing programming is sabotaging our efforts!  (Tune in next week for this epic episode!)

    #3 You need support ‍👩‍👧‍👦!
    The biggest & best way to reach success is to have a team, a community, a tribe to help you when you JUST DON’T WANT TO GET OUT OF BED. Because… some days you just aren’t motivated to do squat. (Join me next week for a live training to Master Motivation!)

    Well, there you have it. A better understanding of WHY we all struggle with achieving our goals and a few tools to help you make the change you want to stick.

    #1 Watch this week Mind Right Monday Episode!
    #2 Tune in next week for another Resolution Rockstar tips & tools
    #3 Sign up for my Mastering Motivation FREE LIVE training!

    And until next time, Keep being awesome!
    💖💖 XOXO Bonnie Kelly

    PS – Be sure to check out below all the cool things coming up!

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  • Top 4 Boundary Rules

    “How disrespectful can they be… Seriously?

    No matter what I say it’s just never enough. They don’t respect me nor do they even want to understand me.

    They’re the ones with issues! 😡😡 Their the ones being so harsh, judgemental, and disrespectful. I’ve had enough! I am going to give them a piece of my mind! I will show them how wrong they are and teach them a lesson in their own game!”

     

    Sound a little familiar and yucky?

    Yeah, I get it. And these were actual thoughts I’ve had about engaging with my 👪 family.

    And truthfully, I was in the right to “reflect back their behavior”, in wanting to “teach them a lesson”.

     

    But just because I was right, doesn’t make it okay.

    My desire to attack who they were and defend myself was actually a fail  👎 on my part, not theirs. Brene Brown says it best…

     

    “When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.”  ― Brené Brown

     

    The warning flags were all there. 🚩🚩

    Their behavior was constantly violating my boundaries but my fear blocked me from doing things differently.

    My fear 👻 of losing their love prevented me from asserting boundaries, for asking for what I needed and kept me feeling small, attacked and allowed them to unknowingly continue their behavior.

     

    All of which could be transformed with boundaries.

    🙄 I know, I know, this has been a big topic this month, but are you listening??

    👂 Have you listened to your own heart, feelings and emotions?
    🚧 Where are you needing healthier boundaries??

     

    We all need more tools around this topic, so to help you start practicing I dedicated this week’s MRM (Mind Right Monday) 🎥 to understanding my Top 4 Boundary Rules!

    My secret to boundary success lies within these rules. Know them. Apply them. Use them. They can help you if you are willing to practice.

     

    Enjoy! And until next time! 🎄 Happy Holidays!!

    💗 XOXO – BK  (Bonnie Kelly)

    PS – If you want to take your boundaries a step further and put them into practice, I have a special offer just for you! This offer is Time Sensitive so don’t delay! Click HERE to check it out…. (It is SO Worth it!)

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  • Do More by doing less

    Holy Holidays!

    🎄 Man-o-man is this a delightful time (and a busy one!).  Am I right?

    Between the travel ✈, parties, shopping, decorating, wrapping, and community events it’s no wonder this is one of the most overwhelming months of the year.

    My question to you is… How do you feel?🤔

    Are you over-committed, exhausted, overwhelmed and/or burnt out?!?

    It’s typical. With so many added events and responsibilities, it is easy to feel that way.
    But is it worth it? 😕

    Seriously, I know how easy it is to think we don’t have a choice in this matter. 😢 To feel obligated to attend, volunteer and to say YES in the spirit of things.

    But at what cost?

    It is so easy to forget we can say no. 💪 To forget we can slow down, breathe and actually enjoy the holidays 🎁.

    This year… I chose to enjoy some much needed time off. Currently, I am hanging out in ❄ North Carolina ❄ with my dad playing games, drinking eggnog and going on walks! ⛄ At home, I’ve been sleeping in till 8 (which is late for me), hanging out in my PJ’s till 10 and doing the bare minimum with my business.

    This is SO WEIRD for me, as I am a busy-bee go go gadget 🕵 kind of gal! Typically I ramp up work, say YES to every party, volunteer as much as I can, and spread as MUCH holiday cheer everywhere I go.

    But not this year. 📅

    This year my primary goal is to recover, relax and enjoy. AND BOY is it needed. You might not know this, but sometimes it’s better to do nothing then it is to fill the void with something.🎉

    To help you shift into a state of joy 🤗, check out this week’s Mind Right Monday (MRM) where I talk about “Doing nothing is sometimes better than doing something.”

    And be sure to let me know what you think! I love 💖 hearing your comments, ideas, stories and suggestions!

    Until next time, Happy Holidays 🎄!

    XOXO – Bonnie Kelly (BK)

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  • #MeToo but now what?

    500 of you need to read this email.

    So let’s be honest. For most of you, this isn’t going to be your favorite email you’ve received from me, 😨 but it might just be one of the most important.

    Currently, this email is reaching about 5,000 of you and out of which 500 of you will completely understand the importance of this email.

    The other 4,500 of you, I plead with you to read on anyway as this does directly affect someone you know.

    In fact, the statistic are staggering… 1 in 10 children before the age of 18 know what I am talking about.

    That’s 10% of our population have experienced or will experience some form of sexual abuse prior to reaching adulthood.

    😢 Horrible right?!

    I agree. And I was one of the 10%.

    Many of you have read my story, (if not snag a copy of my bestselling book True To Your Core, it is SO worth the read) but my story isn’t why I want to talk with you today.

    Rather, it is what happens beyond the story.

    Right now you might see all over social media or TV a huge campaign entitled #MeToo. 😬 For many, this is the first time they have ever felt safe to speak up about their hidden pains. To finally acknowledge the ugly elephant 🐘 in the room.

    And I encourage it. But where do we go from here?

    #MeToo, but Now What is the voice needing to be heard. 🏆 Acknowledgment is key. 🗣 Speaking truth is key, but these are only the first step.

    What I fear happening more than anything with the #MeToo campaign is only the focus on the pain and injustice and NOT ON THE HEALING. 🔮

    Yes, there needs to be action.
    Yes, there needs to be justice.

    Yes, there needs to be change.

    And ALL of this can be accomplished through the hearts of healed minds. 🤔 Minds that are no longer tormented by the hurts of their past. Minds that are not stuck in shame or blame, anger or despair, rather empowered action. 💪💪

    Today I want to give voice to #NowWhat.

    Today I want to encourage the 500 who need this email to seek healing and support. And Today I ask that the 4,500 of you who do not know this pain, share this with those around you as many are suffering in silence.

    Check out this week’s special edition episode and be sure to share with your friends. You can share this email, the video or on social media. Whichever way you feel is most effective.

    Together we can and are making a difference.

    XOXO

    Bonnie Kelly.

    PS – If you (or someone you know) is finally ready to heal from this hidden pain be sure to reply to this email. I have resources that will help.

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  • Unspoken Expectations

    Hopefully, you had a great holiday break and you’re kicking butt this Monday morning! Personally, I feel like I’m in the midst of a holiday fog. I’m sure you can relate!

    🎄 Honestly, how was your holiday?

    For most people, this time of year 📅 actually brings disappointment, heartache, depression, and stirs up old wounds.

    Maybe this is you, maybe not, but either way, I bet there is someone around the holidays that gets under your skin.

    Maybe they are narcissistic, self-centered, arrogant, one-upper, center of attention, victim-minded, shit talker or drama stirrer. Know anyone like that?!

    HAHA – We all do.

    But what really matters is, how do you feel around them? Do they drag you down, exhaust you, drain you, frustrate you or annoy you? 🙁

    This is normal and is often a result of unspoken expectations.

    But it doesn’t have to be.

    There is a better way and I want to teach it to you. This week I am hosting for 2-days a live FREE Master Class called: How to have a Functional Relationship with Dysfunctional People.

    This is one of my most popular classes that I usually only teach around the holidays and it’s back by popular demand!

    💥 Join me live for a real conversation about expectations, boundaries, forgiveness and transforming the way we interact with the people who hurt us the most in our lives.💥

    Space is limited and you are not going to want to miss this live. Be apart of the conversation, ask questions, get real-time coaching & examples. Simply learn a better way with my 5-step process. Sign up by Clicking HERE.

    And in the meantime, check out this week’s Mind Right Monday Video 🎥 as I share with you how to challenge your expectations. It’s powerful, so be ready with pen & paper to follow along!

    Check it out and be sure to share with your friends! You would be surprised at how many people you know who are suffering in silence. 😢 Let’s give them a chance to reclaim their joy.

    Until next time, XOXO

    Bonnie Kelly

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  • It’s Okay to Not be Okay.

    Do you struggle in secret? 🤐🤐

    I wish I could say we live in an emotionally intelligent world 🌏 where we could honor our authentic emotions free of judgment and worry… but we don’t.

    Throughout most of our lives, we have been taught to shut down, numb out, and ignore our emotions. 🤒

    But to what end??

    We have been taught that it isn’t safe to acknowledge our truest feelings and thus have learned to struggle in secret. 🤐

    We put on our happy faces, pretend everything is fine and lose ourselves along the way.

    Well I say, NO MORE!! ✊

    This world is in serious need of an Emotional Revolution!! This world needs people like you👈.

    People who are willing to do the work to heal and learn the skills need to transform their emotional states.

    💖 The world needs you.

    But we cannot change this world if we aren’t willing to change ourselves first. So I ask you, Are you struggling in secret? Are you in your own way and ready for change?

    If so… Let’s talk. Simply reply to this email or Click HERE to schedule. There are tools & solutions to help you get out of your own way! The world needs you 👈 and together we can do this.

    In the meantime… Check out this week’s Mind Right Monday Video where I share a few tips & tools “It’s okay to NOT be okay”.

    Until next time,
    XOXO – Bonnie Kelly.

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  • Success Vs. Failure

    To answer the question in the headline today, you are going to want to watch this week’s Mind Right Monday, and trust me… you’re going to want to watch this 5-minute classic! 😂😂

    In the meantime, while I have your attention  I want to talk with you about something personal…

    For those of you who haven’t read my book 📘 or know my story, I have quite a history.

    A story filled with sexual abuse, abandonment, betrayal, dysfunction, drugs and a laundry list of really bad choices 😞.

    Transforming from this state of being to where I am today wasn’t an easy walk in the park.

    It took serious discipline, hard work and lots of sacrifice.

    The main word is sacrifice.

    The sacrifice of time 🕒 to learn and money 💰 to hire help. The sacrifice of who I was and what I had come to know. And the sacrifice of a state of being that no longer served me.

    People often forget that for their lives to improve, they will need to make sacrifices, and once they come up against this… they often high-tail it back to their “safety zone” of what they know.

    But is that what you want?

    Is staying the same really making you happy? Probably not, however, the pain of change might be more painful than the discomfort of where you are.

    There is an old saying that people change for 2 reasons: they learn enough where they want too or they hurt enough where they have too. My favorite types of students are the ones who reach these points.

    But what about the people in between this. The people who are just “unsatisfied”, “uncomfortable”, or just “unhappy”.

    These are the people who’s fear 😱 of the change outweighs the sacrifices they need to make in order to make the change and so… they stay stuck.

    Not in misery but in “okay” and I’m fine-ville even though they know they are meant for more.

    The truth is… you are made for more.

    You are made to be happy 😊, to rejoice 🙌, to NOT BE IN YOUR OWN WAY! You deserve to know you are loved, worthy and more than enough 💖, you just might need help getting there.

    If you are ready, I can show you the way.

    I know all too well the journey you will need to take, the changes needed to be made and I have developed a road map that will take you there step by step. But, it boils down to you and your choices.

    Will you choose to do something different?

    WIll you choose to do the work & make the sacrifices?

    Will you join me in living your best life?

    If yes, than call me & lets chat. Class has already started and you have less than 2-weeks to join until it’s too late. Together we can do this. Together we can change.

    Click HERE to snag 20-min with me, or if they are all booked call/text my office +1 916-468-4569 or simply reply to this email. We are here for you every step of the way!

    And be sure to check out this week’s video for a good laugh & to learn the #1 biggest thing that separates success & failure.

    Until next time,

    XOXO – Bonnie Kelly

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  • 4 Tips To Help You Get More Motivated

    Is the fall weather making you lazy?

    Happy Fall friend!

    Man-o-man do I love pumpkin spice season! Warm sweaters, cozy blankets, hot cocoa & snuggling!! It’s the best time of the year but can also be that time where we get too comfortable and well let’s be honest…. Lazy.

    I get it! Seriously who wants to go to the gym when it’s raining & cold?!

    I often joke that I am a fair-weather runner 😂! I’m like Goldilocks and the 3-bears 🐻, I like to run when it’s not too hot, not too cold but the weather is just right.

    But does this mindset really serve me?

    The answer is no 🚫.

    The truth is “how you do anything, is how you do everything.” If I am a fair-weather runner with my workouts, there is a good chance I am a fair-weather runner in my business as well, and you know what… it was so true!!

    🏆 Being motivated with your fitness is the same skill as being motivated in your business, at work, with your family, meditations, diet, and home.

    Motivation is motivation and only works when you use it. If you get lazy in one area, there is a good chance you will get lazy in lots of areas.

    This isn’t a slam, but ask yourself honestly if there is truth here 🤔.

    I had to do the same thing this year. Once I realized I had a mindset of fair-weather running with my workouts & business, I noticed it in my nutrition and spiritual practices as well.

    My motivation muscles had gotten weak!! 😩😩 BUT NO MORE!

    🔥 Re-igniting my motivation in all aspects of my life will have some challenges. There will be days when I don’t want to leave the warmth of my bed or comfort of my couch.

    However, with discipline, I too can once again transform my life into the direction I desire to go.

    Laziness is largely in part of a lazy mind and can only be broken with the development of new habits. If you too have been looking to break free of your self-limiting behaviors then join me.

    ❗❗Class starts today and I am willing to enrolling a few more of you this week. Push past the mindset of “I will start next year” and choose to start today. Choose to join a community, to accept support and join a team that is here to hold you accountable for your desired changes. 🏆

    You can’t do this alone, but with help… anything is possible. 👍👍 Together let’s do this. Let’s start your change today and truly allow 2018 to be YOUR YEAR!! Text/Call me today 916-468-4569 and your team will connect you directly with me!

    Until then, check out this week’s Mind Right Monday Video where I share with you 3 epic tips to get your motivation muscles moving!

    XOXO – Love ya!

    Bonnie Kelly

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2 thoughts on “Vlog

  1. Lety Espinoza

    Bonnie, just wanted to let you know I look forward to your Monday videos and love to make time for them no matter what I’m doing! Keep educating us on these very important topics so we can live a fulfilled life.

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  2. RUTH S

    Cassie…thank you for sharing your grief. You were very brave to do so!!! Definitely shows your movement-forward through the process. Again, thank you!! :0) Both of y’all – have a blessed Thanksgiving!

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