Vlog

Vlog

Eliminate Shame

You should be ashamed of yourself!!! โ›”โ›”

How many of us have heard that statement a time or two in our lives??

Other people’s unmet expectations ending with a on slotย of shamming ๐Ÿ™…. NO FUN and in many cases unwarranted.

Yet shame is used all around us. We shame our children into doing the right thing, we shame our friends for hurting our feelings our failing us, we shame our spouses into doing what we want and the list goes on and on. ๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ™ˆ

We use shame as a โ€˜motivating toolโ€™, yet has it EVER positively worked??

Yes, maybe it will change the behavior in the short term but in the long run it ends in resentment, regret and disapproval.๐Ÿ‘Ž๐Ÿ‘Ž

WE NEED TO FIND A BETTER WAY!

A better way of communicating our needs, wants and desires. A better way of communicating our disapproval or dissatisfaction with something. A better way of motivating one another.

SHAME IS considered to be the MOST DESTRUCTIVE EMOTION a human can harbor. Most destructive!!

So letโ€™s put an end to the should filled shames and start learning a better way. ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

To help you start your journey, check out this weekโ€™s episode of Mind Right Monday to learn how to Overcome Shame.

Until next time, keep being awesome!

XOXO – BK

How To Set Better Boundaries With Family

๐Ÿ‘ชOh familyโ€ฆ the people we treasure the most, the ones who drive us crazy the most and the ones who can inflict more emotional damage then anyone else.

For most of us, we have functional families that are fueled with dysfunctional tendencies! ๐Ÿ‘Ž๐Ÿ‘Ž

So we invest in ourselves; our personal growth to change how we think, feel and interact with our family members thinking this โ€˜will solve the problemโ€™, not realizing we are only part of the equation ๐Ÿ˜ค.

YES-YES, you do need to work on transforming how you think, feel and respond to them, but you also need to master the artful skill of lovingly standing up for your needs, wants and desires ๐Ÿ‘.

Do you like how I threw the lovingly in there! ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

This might seem impossible but itโ€™s TOTALLY DOABLE!! In fact, learning how to master the art of boundaries is a powerful skill that will serve you in ALL relationships! Itโ€™s a must! ๐Ÿ†

If you are reading this and already know this is a skill you HAVE to master, I have 3 options for you.

#1: Check out this weekโ€™s Mind Right Monday Video to start the process Link: (10-minutes)

#2: Check out the replay of our Master Class Series Class: Boundaries & How to Have a functional relationship with Dysfunctional people. Link: (2-hours)
#3: Invest in learning how to master this skill!! Link: (6+hours + $97)

Believe it or not, asserting the boundary is the last step (out of 6) ๐Ÿค”in mastering the art of boundaries. You first need to do the inner work to change the way you think, feel and respond and thus your journey begins with Forgiveness.

Maybe not what you were looking to hear and just what you need to do. ๐Ÿ’—You can get access right now to over 6-hours of training and workbook materials to start this journey to day. Simply CLICK HERE, Use coupon code: FORGIVE97 and snag it for just $97.

Until next time, keep being awesome

XOXO – BK

Win the War for Your Worth ๐Ÿ’ช!

Why is your worth in question? ๐Ÿ™…

I donโ€™t care what the internet ๐Ÿ–ฅtells you, we all struggle with insecurities. Sometimes they can be a poke in the side, others a paralyzing force, crippling our best intentions.

But why is it that during these insecure moments, our worth comes into play?

Why is it that because our parents were incapable of loving, supporting or nurturing us that our worth goes under fire๐Ÿ”ฅ?

Why is it when we fail at something, make a mistake or do something embarrassing our worth comes into question?!?

It just isnโ€™t fair ๐Ÿ˜ก!

Yet, we do this to ourselves over and over again ๐Ÿ˜. We question our value and worth with the slightest of mistakes andโ€ฆ this needs to change.

The things that happen to us, through us or for us do not need to define your worth. WE GET TO DECIDE WHAT MAKES US WORTHY!! โœŒโœŒ

The truth is, we are the definer, the storyteller, the decider of what makes us worthy or not and the NOT is fueled by lies.

Soโ€ฆ ๐ŸšซLetโ€™s stop lying to ourselvesย and start writing a new definition that validates our divine truth; that we ARE WORTHY! ๐Ÿ•Š

To help you accomplish this, check out this weekโ€™s Episode of our Mind Right Monday ๐ŸŽฅ to learn how to: Win the War For Your Worth!

Until next time, keep being awesome!

XOXO – BK

3 Tips to Increase Self Love

Self-Care. ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—

ย 

We all have heard the old saying โ€œtake care of yourselfโ€, but what does that honestly mean and how does one go about doing such a thing?

We have so many things demanding our everyday attention ๐Ÿ˜ฌthat it becomes hard to answer these questions honestly.

Do you even know what you need?

For most of us the answer is no. We are too distracted, too overwhelmed, too disconnected to really know how to โ€˜take care of ourselvesโ€™. ๐Ÿ‘Ž๐Ÿ‘Ž

This has become a crisis in our society that needs our attention. ย When we lose the essential connection to ourselves how can we ever expect to be happy or make others happy?

Sure we can fake it for a while but for lasting joy to flourish ๐Ÿ’—in our lives, we need to be deeply connected to ourselves.

So how does one go about doing this?? Easy, simply watch this weekโ€™s episode of ๐ŸŽฅMind Right Monday to learn all about it and the 3-ways you too can practice better self-care!

Until next time, keep being awesome!

๐Ÿ’–XOXO- BK

Overcome Emotional Eating

Stop Emotional Eating ๐Ÿ˜ข

You might not know this about me, but I struggled for years with an eating disorder. I was a severe emotional eater. ๐Ÿ˜ข

What I didnโ€™t know at the time was my emotional eating was how I coped with feeling less than. ๐Ÿ’”

I could quickly numb out from the feeling to temporarily feel relief. But the relief was short lived as the self-shaming cycle begin. ๐ŸŒช

Whatever problems I was struggling with seem to disappear behind the mask of self-loathing and self-hatred. It was the perfect distraction and yet the pain was twice as severe. ๐Ÿ‘Ž

It sucked.

Untangling the emotional eating mental trap that keeps us hostage๐Ÿ”ซ isnโ€™t an easy one, but it is the most rewarding investment you could ever make

I say investment because honestly, you canโ€™t overcome this on your own. Thereโ€™s no magic pill ๐Ÿ’Šyou can take to make it all go away, no, rather you will need to invest in your mental and emotional self.

This investment could just be time ๐Ÿ•’, but in most cases, like it was for me, it was an investment of time, effort and money. Although the thought of an investment at that time felt overwhelming and painful, I look back now willing to have paid double ๐Ÿ’ธfor the rewards I have receive

I share this to encourage you. To encourage you to do something, hire someone, seek guidance and for the love of goodness sake, get out from hiding ๐Ÿ™ˆin the closet!

If you struggle, admission is the first step to healing ๐ŸŒŸ. You are not alone and there are solutions, if you are looking for them.

And in the meantime, check out this weekโ€™s ๐ŸŽฌMind Right Monday where I share with you 3-Tips to help you stop emotional eating. Be sure to let me know if you are seeking help!

Until next time,

XOXO BK

Expectations + Heartache ๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ’”

This quote couldn’t be more true: โ€œExpectations are the root to most heartacheโ€

– unknown.

The expectation that are child will listen, our parents will love, respect or honor us. ๐Ÿ’”The expectation that our spouse will always be on time, or that our friends will never forget out birthdays.๐Ÿ’”

Our lives are filled with both spoken & unspoken expectations. These verbal and non-verbal contracts allows us to feel connected along with feeling deeply betrayed ๐Ÿ˜”.

โ“But are our expectations fair or do they need to be examinedโ“

Honestly, most of our expectations arenโ€™t fair at all ๐Ÿ‘Ž! In fact we hold them over people without ever having a conversation, agreement, taken into consideration their needs/wants or even given a second thought to whether or not they are even capable of upholding our expectations ๐Ÿ˜ฑ.

This is a recipe for heartache ๐Ÿ’”and disappointment.

So what do we do? Well for starters check out this weekโ€™s episode of ๐ŸŽฅMind Right Monday where I discuss the Emotionally Intelligent approach to expectations. Here I will share 3-tips to harnessing your expectation weapons and setting you emotionally up for success!

Oh, and be sure to share it with a ๐Ÿ‘‰friend who you know could use it!

Until next time, keep being awesome!

๐Ÿ’—XOXO BK

3 Powerful Tips to Getting Out of a Slump ๐Ÿ˜ and Getting Motivated ๐Ÿ’ช

Are You in a Slump? ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

A slump is defined as โ€œa sudden severe or prolonged fall in the price, value, or amount of something.โ€ ๐Ÿ‘Ž๐Ÿ‘Ž

Have your goals fallen into a slump? Maybe your relationship? Bank account? Joy??

Honestly with all that you are juggling ๐Ÿ™ˆin life right now it is totally understandable how this area might have slipped into a slump.

Are you ready to get out of it?

โ“I want you to honestly ask yourself this question because even though the slump is โ€˜dragging on youโ€™, you might not have the mental or emotional capacity to shift it just yet!

Sometime when life is heavy we need to put out a couple fires ๐Ÿ”ฅbefore we focus on improving our lives. Be honest with yourself if this is where your at and give yourself a little grace โœจ.

Sometimes the best thing you can do is just focus on one shift at a time, just be sure to put on your ๐Ÿ“…calendar when you think might be a good time to tackle this!

โœ…If you are ready NOW then check out this weekโ€™s Mind Right Monday ๐ŸŽฅwhere I share 3 Powerful Tips to getting out of a slump and getting motivated!

This is a powerful video filled with tools that work! Be sure to share it with someone you know could use the boost!

Until next time, keep being awesome!

โœจโœจXOXO BK โœจโœจ

Start Your Morning Off Right!

Ugh Monday…๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜ฉ

Do you struggle with the Mondays ๐Ÿ˜ฉ? You’re not alone!

If you are a weekend lover ๐Ÿ–, then Mondays are often a painful reminder that your 2-days off are over and itโ€™s time to get back to the grind ๐Ÿ’ผ.

But did you know that the mind-numbing emotional drag that you experience on the Mondays are actually fueled by our habits ๐Ÿค”?

If you spent 2-days drinking, lounging, being a busy-bee, eating junk food, avoiding the gym, going to kid functions, or spent your time with little-to-no rest then the Mondays are going to be especially rough ๐Ÿ˜ญ!

But they donโ€™t have to be!!

In fact, Iโ€™ve got your back!! Check out this weekโ€™s Mind Right Monday ๐ŸŽฌ, where I share with you 3-Tips to Help You Avoid the Mondays!

These are 3-things I actually do and as a result I LOVE Mondays ๐Ÿ’–(hence why you get one of these epic emails & videos delivered on this epic day!)

They work, so check them out and be sure to share with me your Monday tips you use to love the start of your week ๐Ÿ“…!

Until next week, keep being awesome!

๐Ÿ’–XOXO – BK

3 Tips to Help Relieve Stress

Stressed. ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜ซ

I hate being stressed donโ€™t you?ย it totally stresses me out! ๐Ÿ˜‚

All joking aside, stress has been said to be the #1 killer in our country, and with good reason.

Stress affects everything ๐Ÿ˜’! Our physical bodies, our emotional and mental state, our spiritual connection, our relationships, jobs, finances, you name it, stress affects it!

Yet, for so many stress is a common occurrence, if not for many a daily occurrence!

If you struggle with stress on a regular occurence I highly recommend you do 2 things:

โœ…#1 Check out this weekโ€™s Mind Right Monday ๐ŸŽฌwhere I share my 3-tips to relieving stress

โœ…#2 Grab the Book or Audio ๐Ÿ“•: Donโ€™t Let Anything dull Your Sparkle, by Doreen Virtue!

This book ๐Ÿ“–helps break down the chemical dependency that can result from ongoing, recurring stress. Your brain can become addicted to STRESS!! YUCK!! ๐Ÿ˜(and so true!)

Let me know what you think!

 

And until next week,

Keep being awesome,

๐Ÿ’—XOXO BK

3 Habits to Create Lasting Change

Change. (For real) ๐Ÿค”

 

I donโ€™t believe there is 1-person on this planet ๐ŸŒ who doesnโ€™t want to change some aspect of themselves or life.

Desiring change is healthy ๐Ÿ“(well, as long as your motives are healthy). But in most cases itโ€™s also quite difficult.

I mean honestly, who hasnโ€™t set their intention to change and ended with a big-o hand smack to the face. ๐Ÿ˜“

But, why? Why is it so hard!! ย ๐Ÿค”

Well, truthfully it isnโ€™t because youโ€™re weak, pathetic, lame, or a loser, like your mind might tell you. No. Rather, itโ€™s because the change you desire isnโ€™t a neuro habit your brain recognizes and thus it defaults back to the old behaviors (over and over again).

Itโ€™s nice knowing youโ€™re not broken, isnโ€™t it! ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—

Your brain simply needs a little boost to get over the โ€˜old way of thinkingโ€™ hump ๐Ÿ‘Ž itโ€™s stuck behind. To help you do this, check out this weekโ€™s Mind Right Monday Episode ๐ŸŽฌwhere I share my 3-tips to help you create lasting change!

Itโ€™s a fun easy way to learn in 10-minutes or less! So, check it out and be sure to share it with your friends! You can email them this email ๐Ÿ‘, share the video on FB ๐Ÿ‘, and even thumbs up it on YouTube ๐Ÿ‘! Weโ€™ve got your social media needs covered!

Until next week,

Keep being awesome!

๐Ÿ’–XOXO – BK

2 thoughts on “Vlog

  1. Lety Espinoza

    Bonnie, just wanted to let you know I look forward to your Monday videos and love to make time for them no matter what I’m doing! Keep educating us on these very important topics so we can live a fulfilled life.

    Reply
  2. RUTH S

    Cassie…thank you for sharing your grief. You were very brave to do so!!! Definitely shows your movement-forward through the process. Again, thank you!! :0) Both of y’all – have a blessed Thanksgiving!

    Reply

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *