500 of you need to read this email.
So let’s be honest. For most of you, this isn’t going to be your favorite email you’ve received from me, ? but it might just be one of the most important.
Currently, this email is reaching about 5,000 of you and out of which 500 of you will completely understand the importance of this email.
The other 4,500 of you, I plead with you to read on anyway as this does directly affect someone you know.
In fact, the statistic are staggering… 1 in 10 children before the age of 18 know what I am talking about.
That’s 10% of our population have experienced or will experience some form of sexual abuse prior to reaching adulthood.
? Horrible right?!
I agree. And I was one of the 10%.
Many of you have read my story, (if not snag a copy of my bestselling book True To Your Core, it is SO worth the read) but my story isn’t why I want to talk with you today.
Rather, it is what happens beyond the story. ⚔
Right now you might see all over social media or TV a huge campaign entitled #MeToo. ? For many, this is the first time they have ever felt safe to speak up about their hidden pains. To finally acknowledge the ugly elephant ? in the room.
And I encourage it. But where do we go from here?
#MeToo, but Now What is the voice needing to be heard. ? Acknowledgment is key. ? Speaking truth is key, but these are only the first step.
What I fear happening more than anything with the #MeToo campaign is only the focus on the pain and injustice and NOT ON THE HEALING. ?
✅ Yes, there needs to be action.
✅ Yes, there needs to be justice.
✅ Yes, there needs to be change.
And ALL of this can be accomplished through the hearts of healed minds. ? Minds that are no longer tormented by the hurts of their past. Minds that are not stuck in shame or blame, anger or despair, rather empowered action. ??
Today I want to give voice to #NowWhat.
Today I want to encourage the 500 who need this email to seek healing and support. ✨ And Today I ask that the 4,500 of you who do not know this pain, share this with those around you as many are suffering in silence.
Check out this week’s special edition episode and be sure to share with your friends. You can share this email, the video or on social media. Whichever way you feel is most effective.
Together we can and are making a difference.
PS – If you (or someone you know) is finally ready to heal from this hidden pain be sure to reply to this email. I have resources that will help.
Hopefully, you had a great holiday break and you’re kicking butt this Monday morning! Personally, I feel like I’m in the midst of a holiday fog. I’m sure you can relate!
? Honestly, how was your holiday?
For most people, this time of year ? actually brings disappointment, heartache, depression, and stirs up old wounds.
Maybe this is you, maybe not, but either way, I bet there is someone around the holidays that gets under your skin.
Maybe they are narcissistic, self-centered, arrogant, one-upper, center of attention, victim-minded, shit talker or drama stirrer. Know anyone like that?!
HAHA – We all do.
But what really matters is, how do you feel around them? Do they drag you down, exhaust you, drain you, frustrate you or annoy you? ?
This is normal and is often a result of unspoken expectations.
✅ But it doesn’t have to be.
There is a better way and I want to teach it to you. This week I am hosting for 2-days a live FREE Master Class called: How to have a Functional Relationship with Dysfunctional People.
This is one of my most popular classes that I usually only teach around the holidays and it’s back by popular demand!
? Join me live for a real conversation about expectations, boundaries, forgiveness and transforming the way we interact with the people who hurt us the most in our lives.?
Space is limited and you are not going to want to miss this live. Be apart of the conversation, ask questions, get real-time coaching & examples. Simply learn a better way with my 5-step process. Sign up by Clicking HERE.
And in the meantime, check out this week’s Mind Right Monday Video ? as I share with you how to challenge your expectations. It’s powerful, so be ready with pen & paper ✍ to follow along!
Check it out and be sure to share with your friends! You would be surprised at how many people you know who are suffering in silence. ? Let’s give them a chance to reclaim their joy.
Until next time, XOXO
Free Master Class
How to have a Functional Relationship w/ Dysfunctional People.
Do you have a relationship in your life you struggle with? Maybe it’s a parent, spouse, child, co-worker, friend or acquaintance that just drives you bananas??!
Whether it’s because they aren’t self-aware, won’t take personal responsibility, constantly in blame or shame, narcissistic, dramatic or just are always offended; these relationships can cause us tremendous amounts of stress & pain… ?
But, they don’t have too. There is a better way.
If you are ready to...
Then this FREE class is for you!
Space is limited. Reserve Your Seat today!
Signing up is easy – Simply fill out the form above & details will be emailed to you.
There are 2 times & days we go live and this is one live event you aren’t going to want to miss. I will be answering your questions, doing on the spot coaching and giving real live examples!
Be apart of the conversation. Space is limited and though you reserved your spot here doesn’t guarantee you seat at the live event, so be sure to arrive early. We do first come seating to ensure no spots are left empty.
Can’t get into the room? No worries! It will be recorded and emailed to all who sign up!
We go live:
Thursday, Nov 30th 2017 @ 8:30 am PST
Friday, Dec 1st, 2017 @ 8:30 am PST
Do you struggle in secret? ??
I wish I could say we live in an emotionally intelligent world ? where we could honor our authentic emotions free of judgment and worry… but we don’t.
Throughout most of our lives, we have been taught to shut down, numb out, and ignore our emotions. ?
But to what end??
We have been taught that it isn’t safe to acknowledge our truest feelings and thus have learned to struggle in secret. ?
We put on our happy faces, pretend everything is fine and lose ourselves along the way.
Well I say, NO MORE!! ✊
This world is in serious need of an Emotional Revolution!! This world needs people like you?.
People who are willing to do the work to heal and learn the skills need to transform their emotional states.
? The world needs you.
But we cannot change this world if we aren’t willing to change ourselves first. So I ask you, Are you struggling in secret? Are you in your own way and ready for change?
If so… Let’s talk. Simply reply to this email or Click HERE to schedule. There are tools & solutions to help you get out of your own way! The world needs you ? and together we can do this.
In the meantime… Check out this week’s Mind Right Monday Video where I share a few tips & tools “It’s okay to NOT be okay”.
Until next time,
XOXO – Bonnie Kelly.
To answer the question ❓ in the headline today, you are going to want to watch this week’s Mind Right Monday, and trust me… you’re going to want to watch this 5-minute classic! ??
In the meantime, while I have your attention I want to talk with you about something personal…
For those of you who haven’t read my book ? or know my story, I have quite a history.
A story filled with sexual abuse, abandonment, betrayal, dysfunction, drugs and a laundry list of really bad choices ?.
Transforming from this state of being to where I am today wasn’t an easy walk in the park.
It took serious discipline, hard work and lots of sacrifice.
The main word is sacrifice.
The sacrifice of time ? to learn and money ? to hire help. The sacrifice of who I was and what I had come to know. And the sacrifice of a state of being that no longer served me.
People often forget that for their lives to improve, they will need to make sacrifices, and once they come up against this… they often high-tail it back to their “safety zone” of what they know.
But is that what you want?
Is staying the same really making you happy? Probably not, however, the pain of change might be more painful than the discomfort of where you are.
There is an old saying that people change for 2 reasons: they learn enough where they want too or they hurt enough where they have too. My favorite types of students are the ones who reach these points.
But what about the people in between this. The people who are just “unsatisfied”, “uncomfortable”, or just “unhappy”.
These are the people who’s fear ? of the change outweighs the sacrifices they need to make in order to make the change and so… they stay stuck.
Not in misery but in “okay” and I’m fine-ville even though they know they are meant for more.
The truth is… you are made for more.
You are made to be happy ?, to rejoice ?, to NOT BE IN YOUR OWN WAY! You deserve to know you are loved, worthy and more than enough ?, you just might need help getting there.
If you are ready, I can show you the way.
I know all too well the journey you will need to take, the changes needed to be made and I have developed a road map that will take you there step by step. But, it boils down to you and your choices.
Will you choose to do something different?
WIll you choose to do the work & make the sacrifices?
Will you join me in living your best life?
Click HERE to snag 20-min with me, or if they are all booked call/text my office +1 916-468-4569 or simply reply to this email. We are here for you every step of the way!
And be sure to check out this week’s video for a good laugh & to learn the #1 biggest thing that separates success & failure.
Until next time,
XOXO – Bonnie Kelly
Is the fall weather making you lazy?
Happy Fall friend!
Man-o-man do I love pumpkin spice season! Warm sweaters, cozy blankets, hot cocoa & snuggling!! ⛄ It’s the best time of the year but can also be that time where we get too comfortable and well let’s be honest…. Lazy.
I get it! Seriously who wants to go to the gym when it’s raining & cold?! ❄
I often joke that I am a fair-weather runner ?! I’m like Goldilocks and the 3-bears ?, I like to run when it’s not too hot, not too cold but the weather is just right.
But does this mindset really serve me?
The answer is no ?.
The truth is “how you do anything, is how you do everything.” If I am a fair-weather runner with my workouts, there is a good chance I am a fair-weather runner in my business as well, and you know what… it was so true!!
? Being motivated with your fitness is the same skill as being motivated in your business, at work, with your family, meditations, diet, and home.
Motivation is motivation and only works when you use it. If you get lazy in one area, there is a good chance you will get lazy in lots of areas.
This isn’t a slam, but ask yourself honestly if there is truth here ?.
I had to do the same thing this year. Once I realized I had a mindset of fair-weather running with my workouts & business, I noticed it in my nutrition and spiritual practices as well.
My motivation muscles had gotten weak!! ?? BUT NO MORE!
? Re-igniting my motivation in all aspects of my life will have some challenges. There will be days when I don’t want to leave the warmth of my bed or comfort of my couch.
However, with discipline, I too can once again transform my life into the direction I desire to go.
Laziness is largely in part of a lazy mind and can only be broken with the development of new habits. If you too have been looking to break free of your self-limiting behaviors then join me.
❗❗Class starts today and I am willing to enrolling a few more of you this week. Push past the mindset of “I will start next year” and choose to start today. Choose to join a community, to accept support and join a team that is here to hold you accountable for your desired changes. ?
You can’t do this alone, but with help… anything is possible. ?? Together let’s do this. Let’s start your change today and truly allow 2018 to be YOUR YEAR!! Text/Call me today 916-468-4569 and your team will connect you directly with me!
Until then, check out this week’s Mind Right Monday Video where I share with you 3 epic tips to get your motivation muscles moving!
XOXO – Love ya!
Good Morning Love Bug ?!!
I am so happy you opened my email today! I love connecting with you, sharing stories and helping you unlimit your life any way I can!!
This week, I choose to talk about money, moolah, ?dollar bills ya’ll!
Money is one of those things that many people have a push-pull relationship with. We sometimes love it, are resentful of it, hate when we don’t have it, stress when we do, and often feel like we never have enough of it.
This constant push-pull with our mental/emotional relationship to money is keeping you broke!
You’re confusing abundance with what you truly desire!
Let me explain, as many of you know, I now live an abundant life! I just bought an amazing home ? where we put 25% down ? & remodeled it ??, I drive an awesome new car ? and get to travel to awesome places ?, but it wasn’t always this way.
I had to learn to radically transform my relationship with abundance to allow this to be my new life.
You see, I too was confusing abundance for a long time and in fact, if I am being honest, still can do this from time to time.
If you consciously choose to focus on abundance ?, opportunities, & gratitude ? you will attract abundance, but as soon as you drop down into fear, ? doubt or insecurities, you push it away!
This is what confuses abundance! And so money will start making it’s way too you and as soon as our energy shifts into fear/doubt it pushes it away keeping us in lack!
The truly hard part is being able to manage your minds around abundance ? in the face of lack. When you are struggling to have enough it can be easy to get lost in lack and focus on what can be vs. what is.
This is the single most important thing you can learn to do… manage your mind. Stay focus on what can be, what you desire, and what is possible. What you have now is of a direct result of what you were thinking and focusing on. If you don’t transform your thought ?, you will never have the abundance ? you desire.
To be honest, this is a much deeper conversation ? than what I am sharing right here, but it will at least get you started on the right track. To truly break free we would need to refocus and rewire your mind (which I happen to help you do in my 1yr long program that starts Nov 6 ;).
If you want more information on how I can help you completely transform your mindset, let go of self-limiting conditions, and step into your best most abundant life, then click HERE & let’s talk ?!
To further help you breakthrough your money mindset blocks, check out this week’s Mind Right Monday where I share 3 tips to help you do just that!
Remember the Over It Academy starts November 6th and it’s not too late for you to join. I still have 2-scholarships left to help you make the decision you already know you need to make. Change is possible and with a little help, it can be your reality.
Until next week, XOXO ?
I was just about to leave my house the other morning when one of my contractors ? pulled me aside.
We had done business with each other in the past and were very familiar with one another.
“Can I ask you a personal question?” He asked – “Of course.”, I replied.
“Is the life story you shared in your book & on your website true?” he asked.
I smiled, nodded and proceeded to ask him why. The next 45 – minutes brought tears to both our eyes as he asked me about my past, the struggles I’ve faced and the success I have created in my life.
14-years, was my answer to, “how long has it taken you to get where you are now?”. With a shocked ? look on his face, he was in awe with the transformation I have made.
I couldn’t help but be in awe myself when reflecting on what has changed in my life.
All week this week, I have been struggling to feel worthy of the life I have created. With the fancy new house ?, car ?, and upgrades going into my house, I have felt uneasy imagining this being my life.
14-years ago feels like a lifetime, but in the grand scheme of things… it’s just a bleep on the radar.
Many years ago I made a decision to dedicate my life to help other people truly see what is possible when they take radical ownership of their lives (both inside and out) and I’m not the only one.
64 years ago, another inspired women ? set out on a mission to raise awareness and peace ☮ in the world. She traveled from door to door spreading the message of consciousness and the power of your thoughts ?.
She wasn’t after fame and she wasn’t asking for money ?, rather just a desire to see the world ? change.
Today she still presses forward with her mission. She serves as a beacon of hope in this dimly lit world and is the star ⭐️ of this week’s Mind Right Monday Episode.
She inspires me and reminds me how truly blessed I am to have found the path out of suffering and what an honor it is to serve this world.
Today I choose to feel worthy of the great things I have in my life.
Today I choose to allow this sense of gratitude to overcome me.
And Today I choose to be proud of the changes I’ve made and the life I created.
I share this struggle in hopes that if you too often struggle with feeling worthy of joy, love ? or happiness you are not alone.
Feeling worthy, feeling happy, and feeling grateful starts with a choice. What choice will you make today?
If you or someone you know need help… If there is a will for more, reply to me and let’s find a way.
You too deserve an epic life.
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Click HERE to see how you can stop letting your past affect your future.
It was just about this time of year, some 14 years ago, when I faced one of the hardest decisions of my life.
Nothing in my life, up until this point, had gone my way. Each failed relationship, each failed job, and each disappointment ? seemed to push me over the edge.
It had only been 8-months since I moved to California. I was working a dead end job cleaning dog kennels, and was madly in love ? with someone who I prayed ? would be different from the last.
For the first time in my life I was in a safe place to heal. I desperately wanted change in my life and deep in my soul knew more was possible.
Though my life was much better than it ever had been before, the weight of my insecurities closed in around me ?.
Finding myself once again facing a dysfunctional relationship, lack of money and drama filled life, it was time to make a very difficult decision.
I knew I needed help. I knew I was the one who, though didn’t ask for this newly found hardship, was the center cause of it.
Year after year my situation would change, but I was still the common denominator.
I had to ask for help.
But this decision was hard. My pride, ego and victim / lack mindset stood in my way.
Asking for help was like admitting there was something wrong with me or implying that it was my fault. Not to mention… asking for help was going to cost me money that I didn’t have.
So, I faced it. One of the hardest decisions in my life.
I didn’t have the money. I didn’t have the support. I didn’t have the resources. I didn’t know if it was going to work. And I didn’t know if I could afford the on going payment ? that came with it… but I said yes anyways.
I said yes to me ?.
And as you know… that brutally hard decision turned out to be the breaking point in my life.
Are you facing this hard decision ??
Do you know you 100% need to do something different in your life? If the answer is YES! Then let’s talk.
The Over It Academy is currently enrolling new students into our Fall semester and we have a spot with your name on it.
To claim it, you too will be forced to make the same hard decision I did in the past.
This decision will challenge you, but who knows… it might be just what you need.
Look, exploring more is easy and 100% free so you have nothing to lose.
Here’s what you do:
Join me today at 12:30 PST to explore ? more by going HERE.
(Or) Click HERE and let’s talk ?about your options 1 on 1.
And in the meantime, check out this week’s Mind Right Monday on how to make empowered decisions!
Until next time.
Xoxo Bonnie Kelly