Crap! I just emotionally vomited all over my fav shirt!
I hate when this happens. You spend an hour getting ready, fixing your hair and ironing your shirt, only to spill something on yourself as you are heading out the door!
This just happened to me the other day. My husband and I were passionately debating on the phone while I was rushing to get ready for a photo shoot I was doing that morning. With only about 10-minutes to spare, I rushed outside to water a few of my plants before the temperature boiled over 100 degrees that day.
Unknown to me, my brand new nozzle broke and with a flood of fury, water shot everywhere, splattering mud all over my AWESOME white jeans!
In a moment of frustration, I reacted! ?
“GOSH DANG IT!” I scream! “I got to go” were the last words my husband heard, as I hung up the phone and rushed upstairs to find a replacement outfit with only minutes now to spare.
As I rushed off to my shoot, I could feel the tension in my body. The past few weeks had already been stressful and this morning really pushed me over the top.
Knowing better, I should have leaned into one of my tools, but I forgot (yep, I’m human).
As the photo shoot started, I struck a pose, smiled and tried to settle into the moment. About 15-minutes in, the photographer stopped the shoot, put the camera down and said “hun, can you take a breath? Your forehead is stressed and it shows.”
I erupted in laughter!! ???
? Breathe Bonnie, just breathe! ? With this reminder, I took a short 10-minute break to practice some powerful tools to de-stress. Going back to the shoot my forehead was relaxed, my breathing calm and my smile genuine.
It’s amazing what a difference practicing your tools can make. Wondering what tools I used? Then check out this week’s episode of Mind Right Monday to find out!
With the right tools, skills, and insights, you DO have the power to transform any moment into one of joy. ? It’s taken years of practice and though I’m not perfect, I do possess the ability to create the life I desire.
If you are seeking solutions to do the same, then join me. Join me at my Live Event ✨ (Sept 22-23), join me in my year-long Over It Academy ?, join me during Coaching & Coffee ☕, join me on FB Live ?, or join me for 20-min Free with Me ?!
But do something.
Doing nothing guarantees one thing… the same-o-same. Though doing something doesn’t guarantee success, it will guarantee a shift or change. And sometimes that’s all it takes to start an avalanche of good.
Until next time, keep being awesome!
XOXO – BK
There is nothing better than a good drama on the big screen. ? Action packed, full of suspense, bad guys, heroic rescues, and damsels in distress can be so exciting.
? Seeing drama on TV or the big screen is awesome, but not so much when it’s your life on the line. Well, maybe our life’s drama isn’t as dramatic as a Die Hard movie, but honestly, our bodies can have the same reactions to everyday drama as it would to life threatening drama.
So what do we do? How do we deal with Drama?!
Honestly, there are a lot of different methodologies ? as to how to proceed with dealing with drama, and the best method depends on a lot of factors including the situation, people involved, timing and what else is going on.
In this week’s video I will share with you multiple different tips to help you deal with drama so be sure to watch it ?, but truthfully, being able to separate dysfunction from your reality isn’t going to happen over night.
You see, one of the primary factors that I didn’t mention above in dealing with drama is… well, you.
If you lack the skills to not take it personally, to identify triggers, assumptions, expectations and how your past experiences are playing a role in attracting or reacting to this drama, well then you will keep getting sucked in no matter how hard you try!
These skills require training and it just so happens to be the precise kind of training I specialize in! (? Shameless self-plug!)
If you truly want to learn these types of skills and SO much more, then give me a call and let’s talk! I have so many solutions that can help you discover your Journey To Joy.
Whether you are looking for a book, online course, live event, year long program, or 1:1 coaching, I have solutions that are sure to get your mindfulness muscles flexing, stress reducing, emotional releasing, confidence boosting, best self-discovering, epic life living greatness! ?
You can snag 20-min free with me right now by clicking HERE. It’s time to invest in yourself and start living the life you have longed for.
I look forward to talking to you soon!
Until next week,
XOXO Bonnie Kelly
There was a time in my life where my life was ONLY lived by default. No matter how much I tried, I was always in response to situations. ?
Not that long ago, I stumbled across a book by Wallace Wattles called, ‘The Science Of Getting Rich’. Before this point, I had read books like ‘The Secret’, and ‘Law of Attraction’. I understood the basics of how your thoughts influenced the direction of your life and how your feelings drove many of your actions and reactions.
But honestly, knowing this in concept vs embodying this understanding were two different things.
I would spend every morning setting my intention, getting clear with my desire and eliminating any thoughts and feelings that didn’t serve me, yet I still wasn’t getting exactly what I wanted.
Money would come in, but bills of it’s equal value would claim these new riches. I was manifesting MORE MONEY and MORE BILLS at the same time!??!! ???
At this stage, it would have been easy to toss out the books, claim they didn’t work and dismiss these ideas as woo-woo. ? Instead, I kept digging and stumbled upon this quote by Wallace Wattles that struck me to my core…
“To think according to appearance is easy; to think truth regardless of appearances is laborious, and requires the expenditure of more power than any other work man is called upon to perform.”
To think this idea of living a life by design was a hoax and didn’t really work was easy. ? These kinds of thoughts come effortlessly in moments of pain, but what if the truth of the self-sabotage was something deeper. What if I could discover an underlying reason that was keeping me stuck and resolve it?
Well, then I would truly have the LIFE I DESIRED vs. the life that I knew. And guess what… this took WORK!
It took more work “than any other working man is called upon to perform”! Wallace to the rescue! Reading this quote reminded me that to truly master my desires, to truly live the life I choose was going to take work and I had to be willing to not quit when things got difficult! ?
? This is my challenge to you this week. Ask yourself where in your life have you given up because it was easier?
Where do you need to think truth REGARDLESS of the appearances?
If you are anything like a human ? then there are areas of your life desperate for change.
If you know this and are ready to DO something ? about it, I invite you to join me Sept 22-23 in Rocklin, CA for Journey To Joy Live! This 2-day event will set you on the fast track to living the life you desire vs continuing the path by default. Click HERE for more information about this epic event.
And check out this week’s Mind Right Monday Episode where I share with you 3-tips to embracing a life by design.
Until next week, keep being awesome!
XOXO – Bonnie Kelly
PS – Did you know that open enrollment for the Over It Academy has started?! If you are looking for the ultimate personal transformation, then this is the place for you. Enrollment is only open 2-times per year so don’t miss your chance to get your Masters in You. Want to learn more? Snag 20-Minutes Free with me and let’s talk about your options. What do you have to lose? Schedule today by clicking HERE.
Hey freind! How was your weekend?! I was blessed to spend the weekend with some friends on the delta this weekend! Here is the view from the deck:
At last year’s Taylor House Gala, a group of us bought the Delta House weekend package and we finally got a chance to use it! It was so much fun and we can’t wait to bid again at the upcoming event in Roseville CA on September 28th! (Click HERE to learn more about this epic non-profit)
Let’s talk SELF-CONFIDENCE!
Look, everyone struggles with this in different areas of our lives. Some of us are SUPER confident when it comes to making money but lack it when it comes to talking to the opposite sex.
Some of us are super confident in our own skin, whereas others can never seem to find the right outfit! Some love to meet new people, others can’t stand having a 5-minute meet-n-greet! And some of us feel paralyzed by our lack of confidence in all aspects of our lives.
But, why is this???
How is it that we can be super confident in one area and not the next? Why do we struggle so much with being seen, heard, felt, or loved?
Well honestly, it’s because what makes us insecure isn’t something we can change on the outside.
See, typically we think if we just lose that 10lbs, or have the right outfit, or have our bank accounts at a certain level, THEN I will have the confidence!
I hate to break this to you but… this is not the answer.
It might feel like it for a moment when you get that temporary boost, or that extra attention you were longing for, but, this will be short lived.
You see, you can’t fix an inward issue by looking outside of you.
Lasting self-confidence is an inward job that can only be cured with inward solutions. To help you accomplish this, I have 2 things for you.
First: watch this week’s Mind Right Monday episode where I talk about lasting self-confidence.
Second: sign-up to join me for Coaching & Coffee starting this week Wednesday at 7:30am PST.
It’s 100% free and is my way of giving back to you! This week we will explore what is blocking YOU from having self-confidence and use my BREAKTHROUGH YOU coaching methodology to help you unleash the best version of you possible!
Reserving your spot is easy, but don’t snag one unless you are 100% committed to joining me as space is limited. Sign UP HERE!
Okay! Best wishes my loves! And make sure to share this video with anyone you know who could use the confidence boost!
Until next time, keep being awesome!
PS: Did you hear the news!! We will be LIVE September 22-23 for my Journey to Joy Live Event! Tickets go on sale this week Friday and space is limited to just 100-spots! Keep an eye on your inbox for details!
I got sick again last week. The stomach flu hit me like a ton of bricks last Monday after coming back from a fun 3-day camp trip with friends.
I know where I got the sickness (thanks fellow camp buddies), but yet why out of 15 people there was I the only one who left that trip with this bug?
Why was I the only one who got sick? ?
You may think; well maybe your immune system was weaker, or you were stressed, or you shared something. Maybe. But I think it was something much more… Self-Sabotage.
Yep. I got sick so I didn’t have to face my fear. ?
Many of you are like WHAT?! But let me connect the dots for you.
As many of you already know I am currently up-leveling my business this year. I hired 2 amazing coaches who are helping me take my business from 6-figures to multiple 6-figures. Yes, this is heck of exciting, but also terrifying.
Up-leveling means more risk, more responsibility, and demands more leadership. “Can I handle it?” “What if I fail?” “What if I don’t make it?” “What if I crumple under the pressure?!!!”
My fears flared up and started ringing in my ears. For week’s I avoided addressing these insecurities and distracted myself with busy-work so that I wouldn’t have to deal with them.
But God has a bigger plan and you can only ignore your soul for so long before it kicks you in the butt to get moving.
Thus my sickness.?It was my soul’s way of checking me for allowing my old BS to run the show!
THANK GOD I HAVE THE TOOLS ? & KNOW HOW TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT BEFORE IT CAUSED ANY REAL DAMAGE.
I took ownership of my BS and instantly started to use my tools to power through my shit. Now I’m back on track and more excited than ever!!
NOTE: Having the tools & know-how doesn’t mean that my fear and insecurities won’t get the best of me from time-to-time. Rather, it means I can confidently identify and change direction when my old BS beliefs start to run the show.
What about you? Where in your life is your fear, doubt & insecurities running the show?
Own it, acknowledge it, and do something about it! If you need a little help with the “what do I do” part of it, then that’s where you might need to ask for guidance.
Here is what you can do.
First, watch this week’s ? Mind Right Monday episode on Stop Avoiding & Taking Ownership. Second, schedule an appointment with me and let’s talk ?.
There are solutions and the BK-Way can show you how. I have created a step-by-step blueprint to help you transform your BS beliefs to Bliss. Don’t believe me, just see what my grads have had to say.
Enjoy! And until next week, keep being awesome!
XOXO – BK
The title of this email sounds like the start to a perfect joke. I wish I had some witty answer for you this morning, but I woke up sick today 🙁 so my brain isn’t cooperating.
They are leaders in the world of self-development and mindfulness and truly are some of the greatest of our times.
They share so much in common that if you guessed something else, you would also be right, but what I love about all three of these guys is there constant message for us to STOP TAKING THINGS SO PERSONAL!
Time after time, you can find literature from these men sharing how often we take situations and experience to heart and make them mean something about us, when it has nothing to do with us.
In this week’s episode, I will share 3 of my favorite quotes from these men and how by taking this advice to heart, you too can end needless suffering in your life.
Until next week, Keep it real!
PS: Did you know that stopping taking things so personal requires inner work on your part? Through mindfulness training, you too can put an end to this relentless cycle of the mind. Learn how by going to www.21DayEmotionalDetox.com and start taking action.
If you have been reading my emails these past few months then you have been hearing me talk a lot about the BS beliefs?in the mind and for good reason!
Whether consciously or not, we all have beliefs that lurk in our subconscious minds that continuously sabotage our decisions and keep us trapped in a state of “familiar”.
Well that’s all fine and dandy if “familiar” is butterflies and rainbows, but what if familiar is disappointment and dysfunction, then what?!?
?Then life gets or continues being miserable, but it doesn’t have to be this way. ?
You see, we all have beliefs that imprison us to some extent. Sometimes the BS?keeps us trapped living paycheck to paycheck, ?sometimes it keeps us dating the same time of people ?, and sometimes it keeps us yo-yoing with our health⚕.
I have this friend who I love to the moon and back! ? I want nothing but the world for this person. They are very self-aware, easy to get along with, beyond helpful and growth-minded, except when it comes to relationships.
This dear friend of mine keeps dating the same type of people who are projects, need to be “fixed” and/or rescued more days than not. It is PAINFUL? to watch this person fall in love over and over again and constantly battle for better communication and personal responsibility.
UGH! If only they could identify the BS belief?that keeps them stuck in this rescuer mindset, then and only then can they step off the crazy train ? and land at a station where they are attracted to other growth-minded partners.
You might be wondering what BS belief? this friend could be operating on, well, honestly I don’t know. I don’t typically coach my friends and family (it’s an ethical thing), but I do know that it is 100% a pattern that I have seen play out in every aspect of this person’s life. From the friends they make to the people they date, life gives opportunity after opportunity for this person to be a “rescuer”.
What I do know for sure is that this BS?comes from their past where as a child they were forced to grow up quickly and be the fixer at a young age. This conditioning guaranteed installed some kind of BS in the mind that “people need saving” and has kept my friend stuck for most of their life. ?
My question to you… where are you stuck?
Where are you allowing BS?in your mind to run the show without question? And are you even aware of it?!?
In this week’s episode, I am going to challenge you to both identify and eliminate the BS?in your mind! The best part, I even provided a PDF for you to work on! Bad-ass, I know!
Check it out, and if you are ready to take these ideas into action, then join us for our 21-Day Emotional Detox Challenge. It started on Saturday, and you still have time to join us!
Signing up is easy, simply click HERE and join! Within minutes you will have access to my program and steps to start eliminating the BS?in the mind for good!!
Until Next Time, Happy 4th!
XOXO – BK
Happy Mind Right Monday! 3-Steps to ending self-sabotage.
Well good morning! And welcome back to another Mind Right Monday!
In today’s episode I will share 3-steps to ending self-sabotage. Have you noticed I have been covering this topic a lot these past few-months! ?
Well, it’s because it is a common thread we all share.
In fact, it is one of our biggest pain points ? that keeps us stuck repeating the same scenarios over and over again. And I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but it will keep repeating until we learn a better way!
I know, I know… that sucks! But being honest with ourselves and each other is the only way to grow. ?
When’s the last time you evaluated your behaviors?
I know you are a pro with self-care but self-evaluation isn’t something that is often talked about or an action that is often taken.
You see, self-sabotage is sneaky ? and is often masked with blame or labeled as situational or a fluke occurrence when the exact opposite is true!
WE PARTICIPATE in our cycle whether we admit it or not, we do! ? And we have to self-evaluate our behaviors to stop it from repeating again.
Now don’t get me wrong, shit happens. ? I get this. And sometimes bad things just happen to good people, I hear you, but in most cases, there is an underlying unconscious participation that is lurking below the surface and desperately needs our attention.
Discovering our role is the key to emotional freedom!✌ Check out this week’s video and see for yourself just how powerful self-sabotage is and start taking steps now to stop it!
Enjoy! And until next week, keep being awesome!
XOXO – BK
I have a Fish Fetish…wait, what?! ??
Yep… I said this once to a waiter. It was last year and my team and I were down in LA for a conference at some fancy fish restaurants.
We ordered many different ahi dishes and were delighting in the fresh flavors while washing it down with a ice cold Sauvignon Blanc. ?
The waiter returned after a few bites and asked us how our food was. Overjoyed I turned to him and start raving about how fresh the tuna was and how much we enjoyed it. I continued by saying (and I quote) “I seriously have a fish fetish!” ?
Like nothing happened, I went back to my food, the waiter left and there sat my team blank faced staring at me.
Quickly they asked me if I knew what the word “fetish” meant and confidently I said yes! “It means I am borderline obsessed with how yummy fish is!”
As usual (since you would be surprised at how often this happens to me) they all erupted in laughter while explaining to me what the word really meant.
Mortified, I faced the waiter once again to explain to him that I used the wrong word.
With what appeared to be a sigh of relief the waiter did his best not to spit on our food as he too erupted in laughter.
You think that I would be consumed with shame, embarrassment, or feeling pretty stupid at this point, but instead I too was creaking jokes, laughing and making fun of myself for this insanely comical #word-fail. ???
Now, I can’t say this wasn’t always the case. In fact there was a time in my life when I was consumed with the fear of looking stupid.
I seriously would become paralyzed with fear when it came to speaking, spelling or writing on a board and had killer avoiding tactics to evade these things. This fear, once present, would blank out my mind and cause me to forget how to say or spell seemingly easy words. ?
I was stuck and needed tools to break free!
In reality, we all have strengths and weaknesses. It wasn’t until I embraced this fear, learned to get OVER myself and stop taking myself so seriously, when I too could laugh at the ridiculousness of my life. ??
In this week’s video I share with you 3-tips on how you too can start to overcome your paralyzing fear. Check it out!
And if you’re ready to start conquering your mind then I have the perfect challenge for you! Starting July 1, 2017 we kick off our 21-Day Emotional Detox Challenge. Accountability, Action & Tons of Bonuses Included! In less than 10-minutes a day, you too can start to reclaim mental & emotional control! Reserve your seat now by clicking HERE
XOXO – BK
PS – HAHA! And Yes I know I said dishes. LOL! ?
Good Morning Troops! I hope you had a fantastic 3-day weekend! I personally went camping which ended up being a whole lot of fun sprinkled with a dash of weird.
I had so much fun connecting with new & old friends, enjoying the perfect weather, cooking on the fire, relaxing and exploring new areas. We giggled, laughed, ate and played games. It honestly was a perfect weekend, except for the dash of weird.
Now I am sure many of you can relate to the difficulty that blending personalities can be. You never know who is going to get along with who, what special corks people might have and so on. Well, this creates the perfect storm of awkwardness and thus the weird was born into my weekend. ??
So how do you handle this? How do you handle a weekend where you still don’t know anyone’s honest opinions, whether or not anyone was offended or upset, or if you need to deploy damage control or not.
Honestly I wish I had some magic words of my own for you this morning but instead I will borrow from someone’s genius; “You can’t make people be or do what you want. All you can do is be unapologetic about what you want and let others show up however they can.” ?
It was Gabrielle Bernstein who famously said these words and they have been echoing in my head all morning.
No matter how much I desire for people to like me, or get along with me or each other, I cannot control an ounce of this. All I can do is be unapologetic about me and let them show up the best they can.
I often say, we are all doing our best and sometimes our best stucks but it’s our best. I choose to love myself and others through where they are (doesn’t mean I have to be around them) but I can LOVE them nevertheless. ? And if they choose to show up differently then we can meet on a different playing ground and start again.
There is so much truth in this quote. This is why I decided to dedicate this week’s video to honor her wisdom and sharing my top 3 Gabby quotes with you today. ????
I hope you find relief within one of these quotes as I did this morning and be sure to share with a friend who can use some love today!
I wish you all the best in all that you do today and this week,
XOXO – Bonnie Kelly